Toddler Tantrums: 9 Tips On How To Handle Toddlers
Parenting is hard! Especially trying to be patient with little versions of impatient you.
Toddler puberty is a difficult period. Especially if your child has ‘toddler tantrums’ and hits or bites. How can you deal with this?
What is a Tantrum?
After your baby ‘s first birthday, he increasingly creates his own will. He can burst into tears if he doesn’t get what he wants. This frustration can turn into a tantrum . This is a violent outburst of anger that can last for a short time or several hours. Tantrums occur between the ages of one and a half and four. This period is also referred to as toddler puberty .
Tantrums range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and breath holding.
Tips Against Tantrums
How can you deal with your toddler’s tantrums?
1. Ignore the behavior
As difficult as it is, ignore the behavior. Your toddler could to do it sometimes: explode out of nowhere. The more attention you pay to it, the more often it happened. Until you ignore him.
You could put him in the hallway without speaking to him, closethe door, and go back to work. If he keeps acting like that, then keep ‘ignoring’.
Very difficult, but it works. Because suddenly the fun will begone. Make sure to also reward good behavior .
2. Involve your child in activities
A tricky issue. When do you start with a time-out? You might notice that some toddlers can get very angry if you don’t understand them. Make sure to involve him/her in activities: washing in the washing machine, setting the table, etc. Then compliment him/her for the work.
3. Provide distraction
Put him away and give him toys. Try to get him out of his mood that way.
4. State the emotions
At that age, toddlers experience emotions intensely, but are not yet able to interpret it. Let alone give words to it or regulate it. It helps if you as a parent give words to it. “So, you are angry! I get that, you wanted to play together and now mommy is cooking! ” In this way your child learns that the emotions can be there and you help your child to put them into words. In time (that will take a while) he will get to know them and be able to regulate them better and better.
I wouldn’t put it aside (time-out) so quickly. It is effective in the short term, but in the longer term you are basically saying that negative, angry, sad, and frustrated emotions shouldn’t be there, expressed, and kept to yourself.
Find out what’s behind the behavior. “Did you have a busy day, have energy left or are you really tired? Or just need some attention?“
You could also google ‘power games’.
5. Identify the consequences
Try to estimate as best you can what has been acted on and what real, genuine emotions are. Of course a child can be angry or sad, but if he makes fun of you, there should certainly be consequences. Even when he isn‘t speaking well, keep explaining to him what would happen if he doesn‘t listen.
6. Acknowledge the emotions
Confirm him/her in their emotions. Let him/her cry or scream for a moment . Then go to her and let her look at you and stop crying. Then you could say: “You are so angry, that is not nice at all, is it? You are completely sad about it. Should we cuddle together?” Then it will be over in no time. Make sure to hear her in her emotions, because her emotions are allowed to be there.
This can be a quest with any child. What works for one child doesn’t work for another.
7. Transform it into something positive
Try to turn the behavior into something positive. For example, if your child hits you, offer him something you think is okay. Think of a high five or petting. You can do this in the first instance. After often repeating they do it when you say it.
In the greatest anger, try to always let your daughter cool off in the hallway (max. 1 minute). Don’t say anything, pick her up and put her in the hallway. Then go back and see if she is ready or else close the door. And always make amends.
Also compliment her when she is calm again. That you like it so much that she is cozy again and that you love her.
8. Do it back!
Here’s a tip for biting. It sounds harsh, but the moment he bites you, bite him back. Not too hard, but not too soft either.
9. Repeat, repeat, repeat
Keep repeating clearly that it is not allowed and put on a seat. That is education: repeat, repeat, repeat.
With these 9 tips on how to handle toddlers, you’re sure to be relieved of the worries your toddler gives you. Make sure not to shout at or hit them as they’re going through a phase where they need to be understood and properly taught how to handle themselves.
And as the last tip goes: REPEAT, REPEAT, REPEAT!
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